I have been thinking a lot about the relationships children have with their parents.
It obviously is an issue of human existence that crosses time and cultural boundaries.
“Every generation blames the one before” the opening line of a Mike and The Mechanics song often makes me ponder, why do we allow such disconnection from our parents?
Many are justified – parents can get it so very wrong.
The ultimate trust and reliance a child has on its parents, over time, often transforms into a realisation that not only are they fallible, but also their views and ideas of the world can differ so much and are almost at odds with the world the younger generation is finding itself in.
What should a parent be to their grown-up children? An Authority? An equal? A Supporter? Wise Counsel? Proud Observer?
This film cuts through the romantic ideal and projects the truth that so many children see their parents as a burden. To care for them is a duty grudgingly undertaken and it is in death that we perhaps momentarily regret the attitude we carried. Worse still, is when we see the pattern repeated with our own children.
Of course the film definitely commands the audience’s sympathy for the parents in the story. Which is perhaps a little unfair. Children are definitely a product of their upbringing, so the ‘ungrateful’ offspring in the story must carry something of their parents in how they live out their ‘modern’ lives.
I guess it all comes down to love: The ‘unconditional’ sort is so mis-defined – probably because it demands forgiveness, that requires vulnerability, which is always a sacrifice.
They say that parenthood teaches you the meaning of unconditional love. I don’t doubt that is so when raising children, but I would argue that the test of true unconditional love comes when both parents and children are adults.
